Guides
Short answers to real questions.
Each guide gives a simple explanation, a small exercise, and one next action. Read one. Then go do the thing.
- How to stop overthinkingYou don't stop overthinking by thinking harder. You notice the loop, name what you actually know, and give your attention something physical to do.
- How to stop procrastinatingMake the first step so small and physical that it takes less effort to do it than to keep avoiding it.
- How to take actionTurn the intention into a physical action you can start in the next two minutes, then start before you feel ready.
- How to get out of your headGive your attention something real to rest on: your feet, the room, a sound, the task in front of you.
- How to stop worrying about what people thinkNotice that you're predicting other people's thoughts, remember you can't verify the prediction, and return to what you can actually do.
- How to make difficult decisionsWrite the real options down, notice which fears are predictions, check the decision against your values, and pick the next step.
- How to have difficult conversationsKnow the one thing you need to say, open with a simple invitation to talk, and listen more than you rehearse.
- How to talk to teenagersBe interested instead of trying to be interesting. Notice something specific, ask about it, and listen.
- How to act when you're afraidLet the fear be there, notice what it's predicting, steady your body for a moment, and do the smallest next step.
- How to start something you've been avoidingShrink the first step until it's almost silly, then do it before your mind finishes negotiating.
- How to stop overanalyzingDecide what "enough" looks like, notice when you've passed it, and switch to a small test in the real world.
- How to find the next stepAsk what actually needs to happen now, not eventually, and translate it into one physical action you can start in two minutes.
- How to turn thoughts into actionSeparate what you know from what your mind is adding, then turn what you know into one physical action.